Q & A #WIFELIFE

 

How did you tell Shawn you were pregnant? How did he react?  How did your parents react to having a baby before marriage? Or was it not a big deal at all?

I really cannot sum this up in one paragraph.  You can read ALL about it here.

The Guy I am dating isn’t always nice to me but I really like him.  What do I do?

UMM GET RID OF HIM! I sure wouldn’t want my daughter settling and dating some guy who wasn’t really nice to her and I am sure your mom feels the same way.  There are PLENTY of dudes out there for you to be wasting your time on him.

 

What do you do to make your relationship successful?

Keep it sexy, girl! He he, I hate to say it like this, but guys are very simple.  I flirt with him, I let him choose where we go eat dinner sometimes, we “cuddle,” we still date…We talk business, we talk relationships…we communicate which I think is the number one thing in keeping relationship successful.

What do y’all do to shop being mad at each other during a fight?

Shawn always caves in first, hehe! Kidding-he just never ever likes to go to bed mad at each other, and I am very spoiled and often very selfish and can go a day without talking to him-OVER NOTHING (omg y’all I am such a baby).  Shawn never lets anything really bother him, he sees time as way too precious and valuable so never lets petty stuff take up his time.  Before Bo, he’d just offer to go to my favorite restaurants or mention Krispy Kreme and we were over it, lol, now that we have Bo, Bo is kind of the ice breaker and since he hasn’t slept for 9 months and pretty much cried all day everyday, we both walk around on pins and needles because WE ARE EXHAUSTED.  When he stays with my parents or Shawns parents we are like HALLELUJAH! SLEEP!

 

How do you know if someone is the one or if you’re wasting your time?

If you are already questioning that you are wasting your time, you are probably wasting your time.  I say this because I knew Shawn was the one the first evening we hung out.  I never once questioned if I was wasting my time, and I don’t think he did either.  I know it is so cliche to say “you know when you know” but it is so true.  You just click and everything makes sense.

What are you and Shawn favorite thing to do together?

Be on the water.  We love being on the boat and “bar hopping.”  We bought our lake home based on the bars around the lake, hehe! 

Before Bo we would get on the water at 10AM and not get back in until 4AM.  Those were some of the best times of our life! Me + him + music + the water = heaven.

 

 

How would you get through a big bad bump in a relationship?

I am the wrong person to ask this.  There are a lot of things, as women, no matter how hard we try, you just cant get over/get through it.  I understand one day we may go through a bad bump, but I also know Shawn will try everything in his power to never put me in that situation and I feel the same way towards him.  The main thing is love someone so much that you know one day you may go through bad bumps, and know your love is strong enough to overcome it.

Are you and Shawn a lot alike or different and how do you make it work?

We are a lot alike, we have the same wants and taste, but we are very different, if that makes sense.  I often live in la la land and Shawn is very grounded.  However, our core values and the way we love are very similar.  

We make it work because no matter what at the end of the day, we know we are each others person.  We are best friends and we love to love each other.  We only ever want the best for each other, our family and each others businesses.  He is so supportive and hands on with everything I do as I am his businesses (sometimes I act like I own his too, hehe).

Advice for a new mom/working wife and trying to do it all?

Know that you can do it all! You can be a wife, a mom, AND work if that is what you want to do.  I want it all! I want to be the best wife to Shawn, the best mom to Bo, and the best BOSS BABE, to my employees and for YOU all!  Shawn understands and respects that.  Often times when I am at the point of trying to grow, he has to remind me, “babe, can I have you this evening,” and I will take a break, but sometimes I remind him, “it wont always be like this.”  He allows me to do it all and never once makes me feel guilty for working 12-14 hours a day after he’s worked all day and barely slept from Bo and then will come home and take care of Bo. 

How do you and Shawn manage to find quality time together?

Right now it is tough.  He’s at work at 7-8 AM, I wake up with Bo around 8:30 AM, our sitter is to our home by 9:30 AM, I work until 5-6PM. Shawn comes home, we will grab some dinner, with Bo, give Bo a bath by about 8:30 PM then we are in bed by 9-10 catching up on a show we are watching.  Lately it has been Southern Charm and The Bachelorette.  

Tuesday or Wednesday evenings, we will shoot new arrivals from about 6-9PM then grab a quick bite by ourself but thankfully Shawn agrees we need our own time/days sometimes, so if Madison or his mom is free on a Friday or Saturday evening/night, we will take them up on it and go out to dinner and for drinks, just us two. 

How do you never lose interest?

We do not ever quit dating, ever! 
Shawn is very good at keeping things exciting and not letting our relationship get in a rut, plus he is SO DANG HANDSOME! I always find him so attractive and he just makes my heart flutter.  

How big of an adjustment is it form engaged to married? 

Married life isn’t that big of an adjustment.  Moving 7 hours away from my store and my family with a baby has and was the biggest adjustment for me.  

How did you know Shawn was the one?

A few dates in, we stood in front of his pantry and he said “do you want to make a bunch of random crap for dinner tonight” (as we were eating pasta salad with our fingers out of the bowl)…I knew then he was the one I wanted to “make a bunch of random crap” with, he he! So we made Spaghetti-O’s, Sea Salt Edamame, Ramen Noodles, 5 Cheese Garlic Cheese Bread, Eggs and Salsa…you name it, we had it!

How did you know you wanted to marry him?

I never was the girl to dream of being married.  I wanted my boutique.  When I found someone who accepted and supported that as well as loved me and my family as much as his, I knew that was who I was going to marry…and he was that.

I can remember a few boyfriends ago, my mom said “one day you’re going to lose your dad and I, who do you want by your side when that happens?” As AWFUL as that is to think about, I couldnt imagine going through those traumatic events without Shawn by my side.  

What is your favorite date night date?

No matter where to, taking the boat to dinner.  We love being at the lake and taking the boat to dinner at The Blue Parrot, or if we are in Myrtle Beach going to Wahoos.  Lately we have been going to Wicked Tuna and we love that to.  I love to ask his help on what to wear out for date night, and he will me too!  We jam the whole way there to music with a Bud Light in hand and its just he and I! 

What does your husband do and was he scared when Bo was first born?

He is a land developer and home builder.

He was never scared (or if he was he hid it very well).  I mean we are all scared to an extent.  He was just very cautious, especially of GERMS, he he!